The most asked question in Bartender Basics is one weâve gone out of our way to avoid: How do you get free drinks in a bar?
The short answer is, you donât. Donât misunderstand, free drinksâreferred to as âbuy backsâ in industry parlanceâare as common in bars as wobbly stools, bathroom graffiti or people who drunkenly rap along to the first 6 bars of Biggieâs âJuicyâ before losing all rhythm. But the catch-22 is that, by trying to get the bartender to give you free drinks, youâre almost always disqualifying yourself.
That said, in the interest of looking behind the curtain (or under the lowboy) of bar culture, letâs explore at why some people are more likely to get special treatment at bars while others wonât.
Rule #1 For Getting Free Drinks: Never expect a free drink.
This rule canât be overstated. It even supersedes more commonly assumed bartender-endearment techniques like being a good tipper. Free drinks, along with the ability to 86 customers, are the two main tools a bartender has to exercise control over their domain. If you ask for or even imply that you feel you deserve a free drink, youâre unwittingly attempting to usurp the bartenderâs agency. This intrusion on their discretion will cause most bartenders to reject any freebies outright, on principle.
Every other tip or technique to procure buybacks is predicated on you never, ever explicitly asking for one. The second you talk about it, the magic is broken, and you pay full price.
Rule #2: Be cool.
An addendum to Rule #1, this goes beyond asking for free drinks, and governs all bar behavior. Be cool and donât harangue the bartender for free drinks. Donât act like an entitled jerk to staff or other patrons. Be a good guest by recognizing that youâre in the bartenderâs second home, and âthe customer is always rightâ is a throwback phrase that doesnât really apply in the modern world. Sometimes the customer is wrong and sometimes the bar is wrong, too. Be understanding and donât try to bully your way into free drinks.
âDonât ask for âa little extra,ââ says Devin Ayers, general manager of Catfish in the Crown Heights neighborhood of Brooklyn, NY. âDonât ask âWhatâs your strongest drink?â I mean, how old are you? If youâre just trying to get drunk, you can pay for it.â
Also, be a good customer and a good neighbor. Respectfully engage with your bartender and other patrons. Happily take a backseat if it seems like those around you would prefer not to talk. Free drinks are secondary to the other benefits youâll gain from being kind.
âIâm a sucker for buying a drink for the lone person at the bar,â says Greg Floyd, bartender at The Holler in Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn. âIf youâre polite and there with a book and just doing your thing, Iâll get you.â
Rule #3: Tip well.
While tipping well is a fairly straightforward way to become a preferred customer, tips alone wonât grant you free drink status. The world is full of terrible people with money to throw around, but that doesnât mean itâll gain them entry into the hallowed grounds of, say, a bar lock-in. Tipping well can be part of being a good customer, but only in conjunction with the first two rules regarding not being an asshole.
That said, if youâre trying to make a new bar your local and plan to return repeatedly, throw down a $20. A $20 bill is an industry handshake, one that says, âI appreciate you and will be back again.â You donât need to overtip to draw attention (see Rule #2), just lay down a simple $20 and be comfortable in the fact that if you are well-behaved, itâll karmically come back to you in the form of free drinks, friendship, or just satisfaction of being a good person.
Rule #4: Understand how your order affects the bar.
âIf you keep ordering the same thing, and itâs easy to remember, youâre more likely to get one on the house,â says Floyd. Thatâs not to say you need to order one thing all night, every night. Itâs just helpful to understand how your orders impact the bartenderâs workflow.
How you order matters, too.
âKnow what you want,â says Floyd. âDonât come to the bar each time asking, âWhat do you make good?ââ
There are also financial motivations for buybacks, or lack thereof.
âWhen someoneâs ordering Ketel martinis nonstop, itâs harder to buy [back] a drink because it hurts the bar,â says Victoria Netram, a bar professional in Carroll Gardens. âWell drinks, shotsâŠyouâre more likely to get a free drink if itâs not hurting the business.â
Rule #5: Every-third-drink is a guideline, not gospel.
This âruleâ is an old bartender shorthand that unfortunately was taken as standard operating procedure by many entitled customers. It goes that every third (or fourth) round is bought-back by the bar.
To be clear, this is still common, and many bartenders hew to considering buy-backs after two or three rounds. But the key word is âconsider.â The free drink is still a kindness, and not mandatory. Youâre owed nothing. Other factors come into play, like whether itâs a slow weekday with a handful of people at the bar, or a hectic Saturday night. Citing this loose policy to your bartender violates Rule #1 (never expect a free drink) and can immediately disqualify you for a round on the house.
Worth noting, the every-third standard only applies to rounds and not drinks. This means if youâre ordering a round of 12 shots for friends, please donât argue that you should only pay for 8 of them. Ever. It happens more often than youâd think.
Tipping on free drinks
If youâre given a free drink, tip appropriately. The minimum should be tipping as though you paid for the drink. Better yet, add to your tip what half the drink would have costÂâif a bartender gives you a free drink that wouldâve been a $10, tip them an extra $5. Youâre still saving 50% while fulfilling an unspoken compact among bartenders and regular customers that says, âIf I give you free booze, you help me make rent.â
The buy backs you donât realize youâre getting
Even if itâs not a free shot or cocktail, there are other ways the bartender may be hooking you up without your knowledge (or, conversely, holding you and your tab financially accountable for poor behavior).
At many bars, thereâs an array of buttons in the computer systems used to increase the price of drinks. These can be the Up button, or any modifier like âmargaritaâ or âmartiniâ that are added to your base spirit to inflate the price by a few dollars. The purpose is to accurately reflect the increased cost of making a cocktail, and give a good estimation of inventory for ingredients that arenât normally rung in. For instance, a âgimletâ button may increase the baseline price of a gin by $1 to account for the limes and simple syrup used in the drink. A martini button may increase the price by $2â3 to account for the cost of vermouth and give the bar manager a loose idea at inventory time of how much vermouth is being used, as the ingredient is rarely rung into a barâs computer system on its own.
A bartender that likes you will often not charge you for any of these âextras,â but just ring in the base spirit. So, your Grey Goose martini will just be a charge for the two-ounce pour of vodka while the trimmings are on the house. The bartender may let you know about the hook-up, though many wonât, in the interest of playing it cool (see Rule #2). That said, itâs worth noting on your final check if these discounts were included, and if so, leave a generous tip in appreciation.
Note that if youâre a problematic customer, youâll likely see a line charge for every ingredient in your drink, down to the water used to make the ice. If you see these extra charges on your check, take it as an opportunity for personal reflection and growth, by revisiting what kind of patron you were, and how to improve upon it in the future.
Reasons you wonât get a free drink
In the interest of debunking misconceptions, letâs run down a very short list of examples of things that donât immediately qualify you for free drinks.
- Itâs your birthday.
- Itâs your friendâs birthday.
- You know birthdays exist and are aware that statistically itâs someoneâs birthday, somewhere.
- You know the owner. (So does the bartender.)
- Youâre famous.
- You believe yourself to be famous.
- Flirting.
- Another bartender usually gives you free drinks.
- You spilled a drink youâve already paid for.
- You decided you donât like a drink youâve ordered.
- After being served your drink, you ask/comment, âSo this oneâs on you, right?â (See Rule #1.)
- After ordering a double, asking why you were charged for two drinks instead of just one.
- You let the bartender know you plan to tip well, but the tip is contingent on getting free drinks. (Spoiler alert: You probably wonât, and a tip is not blackmail.)