With today's sagging economy, more people are opting to entertain at home. Whether the event is a lively cocktail party, casual gathering or formal dinner party, successful hosts will exude graciousness and cordiality by steering clear of these faux pas:\r\n\r\nSelecting the wrong invitation style. The invite gives guests a first impression about your event. Jennifer Ricciardi, Director of the Lifestyle Finishing School in Virginia, advises caution with phone invites, which may be suitable for casual get-togethers, but can also seem like an afterthought. She believes classic paper invitations sent four to six weeks before an event to be the most personal and welcoming, and that online invitations should only be considered as a last resort or for impromptu gatherings. Michael Degano, Director of Operations for Kimpton Restaurants, believes virtual invites can be handy for "save the date" reminders, but also encourages following them up with a written note.\r\n\r\nCreating a random list of guests without similar interests. While the goal shouldn't be cookie cutter sameness, strive for some type of common denominator. "Introduce people who you think will have similar interests, and are of the same socio economic background.\u00a0 They are more likely to maintain a conversation if they can find similarities," Ricciardi suggests. You can also facilitate conversation by inviting a few guests who know everyone and are able to break the ice.\r\n\r\nIgnoring your guests. Not being there to greet guests at the door or to introduce them to one another sets a negative and unwelcoming tone. If food preparation is keeping you from mixing and mingling, hire professionals to assist in the kitchen and serve food and beverages. Or delegate to guests, who tend to congregate in the kitchen anyway and are often eager to help. Serve food that can be prepped ahead of time, and consider eschewing the full bar in favor of wine, beer and one signature cocktail. "Plan ahead, accept help and keep it simple," Ricciardi simply states.\r\n\r\nMaking solo guests feel like a third wheel. There is nothing more awkward than conspicuously hugging the wall at an event while everyone else is easily conversing and making new friends. Degano points out that it's the host's responsibility to know who is coming, invite other solo guests and help all of them strike a common bond and remain engaged throughout the evening.\r\n\r\nIgnoring dietary restrictions. For dinner parties, where food is the major focus of the event, ask guests ahead of time if there are any foods that they cannot eat due to allergies or religious beliefs. While you need not create the entire menu around them, providing several food choices is always considerate at any type of event.\r\n\r\nAnd How to Be a Gracious Guest\r\nUnless you do a large amount of entertaining, you'll probably find yourself attending events more than hosting them. Avoid the following guest no-nos, and you can be sure to get a repeat invitation in the future:\r\n\r\n\u00b7\u00a0Making the host track you down to see if you are coming. RSVP in a timely fashion.\r\n\u00b7\u00a0Arriving too early or late for an event. Degano says fifteen minutes either way is fine\u2014hosts should plan on being ready before the start time to accommodate early arrivals. Open house style events are typically more flexible with guest arrival times.\r\n\u00b7\u00a0Insisting that the host serve something you brought. Requiring that the host pour your wine or serve your appetizer\u2014which may not pair well with the existing menu\u2014is impolite, unless the event is understood to be potluck.\r\n\u00b7\u00a0Dressing inappropriately. If you are unsure what to wear, call the host. If it's still unclear, it's generally better to be slightly overdressed than underdressed.\r\n\u00b7\u00a0Entering rooms with closed doors. Ask the host if you need the restroom or have another request.\r\n\u00b7\u00a0Overindulging in food or drink. The former makes you look gluttonous, while the latter can be embarrassing, not to mention dangerous if you are driving.\r\n\u00b7\u00a0Forgetting a little something for the host. For options beyond the typical bottle of wine, consider gourmet sauces or seasonings, high-quality chocolate or movie tickets.\r\n\u00b7\u00a0Showing up with uninvited guests. This is especially inconsiderate for dinner parties, where it's necessary to plan in advance place settings and food amounts.\r\n\u00b7\u00a0Overstaying your welcome. If all other guests have gone home, and the host begins cleaning up, you have probably remained too long. Thank your host for a fabulous time, and head home.\r\n\r\nKelly Magyarics is a wine and spirit writer, and wine educator, in the Washington, DC area. She can be reached through her website, www.trywine.net.